Concerned about your own behaviour?

It takes a lot of courage to admit that things may not be right. If you have ever been worried about your own behaviour with a family member, ask yourself:

1. Have I ever shouted or screamed at a family member?
yes/no

2. Have I ever called a family member insulting or belittling names and constantly criticised them?
yes/no

3. Have I ever prevented my partner spending money for their personal use?
yes/no

4. Have I ever slapped, hit, pushed or shoved a family member – or threatened to?
yes/no

5. Have I ever scared my partner, children or other family member?
yes/no

6. Have I ever thrown something in my partner’s or child’s presence, such as a glass, a chair or tv remote?
yes/no

7. Have I ever pressured my partner into doing something sexual that they didn’t want to?
yes/no

8. Have I ever tried to stop my partner doing something that they wanted to do? (for example, going out with friends, having a job, doing some study)
yes/no

Family relationships have their ups and downs, with occasional disagreements or arguments. Most people will feel frustrated, disappointed or angry with a partner or family member at some point. But there is a difference between a healthy level of disagreement and using violence and control.

If you answered yes to one of more of these questions, there are people you can talk to.

If you are a man, you can call the Men’s Referral Service on 1300 766 491 (seven days a week)

Women and gender diverse nurses, midwives can talk with a counsellor through their Employee Assistance Program (EAP) or talk to your GP for a referral.